I Want A Baby!!!
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Q:  I desire to have another child with my husband.
 
We already have four children, and my husband has had a vasectomy. 

He feels we made an agreement 3 years ago, and that it is unfair for me to have a change of heart.   But right now the desire in me is so strong, it hurts that he won't even consider it. 

What do you think?

from the Mountain:

Dear Yearning Mother,

I asked my wife “how would she answer this?”  

There were three reasons that I asked my wife.  

#1 – I respect her opinion.  Although I am the head of the house, she has great discernment and wisdom.

#2 – A woman’s perspective may be best on this.

#3 – I am trying to convince my wife to have four children (we have two, she only wants three.)

Understand her perspective on this.  

She has a husband that wants more children than she does.  

I come from a big family (six children), she comes from a smaller family (two children).  

We still have very strong tendencies to emulate our parents.

When my wife read your advice request, this is what she said virtually verbatim:

“She has four children already!  
Usually it’s the woman that takes the responsibility for birth control.  When the man has a vasectomy, they have really discussed it thoroughly.  

She must have been feeling very strong about not having any more children when her husband had the vasectomy.  Maybe some of her friends had children and she was around a little baby and it re-ignited her feelings of wanting a baby. 

But she had an agreement with her husband and it’s not fair to ask him to have an operation to try to reverse his vasectomy, they had an agreement and it should not change just because she changed her mind.”

Nuff said. 

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