Teenager with Serious Problem
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Q:  I'm a Teenager with a serious problem

Hi, .I am a teenager and I have a serious problem.  

I have asked other people for advice but nothing helps so I thought it wouldn't
hurt to ask here too.

Anyways, my problem is that I am extremely shy and I just moved to this new place. 
I am scared to talk to people that go to my school and to the boy I like because I'm 
afraid I might say something stupid and everyone will laugh at me.  

This is a serious problem for me because I now have no friends and am very depressed..
I can't talk to my old friends because they are over a thousand miles away.  

So please help me.  Any advice would be great.  Thank you and have a blessed day.

from the Mountain. . . 

First of all, ANY advice is not great.  Only good advice is great.
You are young and many will offer you advice along the path of life, be wary of advice.

I first give you this criteria for accepting advice.  Make sure the person giving you the 
advice is where (or going) where you want to be.  Always remember that and it will help to 
filter the counsel that you receive.

Second, you don't have a serious problem.  You have an inconvenience, you think.
I say "you think" because your shyness may be a benefit.  I know because I was very shy
in high school.  Like you, I was terrified of the person that I liked. 

I would walk to school each morning and she walked the same way.  Sometimes I would see
her in front of me and I would slow up so that I would have to pass her.  She slowed up too on
many mornings so that I could catch her.  I knew she slowed up but I was terrified, so I either walked slower or walked fast and rushed past her.

I was afraid of ALL of the girls in high school though I knew many of them liked me.  I wished often that I could have gotten over my fear. 

What if I had?

I would have dated.  I would have probably had sex.  I was not a minister in high school and had
absolutely no inclination towards it.  I would have had a high probability of getting someone pregnant.

My fear at the time seemed like a terrible curse. 
I look back on it now and realize it was a protection and a blessing.

So what if you don't get with the boy you like?

I married when I was 38.  My wife was 27.  She was STILL a virgin.
She was afraid of boys too.  That protected her.  If she had not remained protected, we would not likely have been married. 

Your fear may be a blessing like mine was.  It may be a blessing like my wife's was.

Third thing.

Give what you want.

If you want a friend, be a friend.

There are many just like you that are looking for good, sincere friends.  They are scared.  They are not a part of the "IN" crowd.  I think you know what I mean.  They need a friend.

Give friendship.

You will be surprised what you'll get back.

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